The transformative practice of tantric conscious self-pleasuring
Awareness, Allowance, Appreciation
Learn how this sacred practice can deepen self-love, heal emotional wounds, and unlock your inner power. Start your journey today!
In today’s fast-paced world, self-care and self-love are often put on the back burner. The task-driven pace of modern-day life barely allows for enough time to just be, play, enjoy and savor the moments. It is up to us to create this special time for ourselves. To put it in our calendar so that we make sure it happens. Because we need this for our happiness. It is essential for maintaining balance and well-being.
The core and very foundation of our happiness can be found within the depths of our own being, our center: in our body, our mind, our emotions and spirit.
This is a practice that reconnects you with the temple of joy within yourself. It is a coming home and can only be found in presence, in letting go of the chase of the to-do lists and the not-enoughness, the trying to fix and accomplish, the responsibilities and goal-oriented unending race of life. Create a Time out to reset, realign and rejuvenate. So that you find back to your innate wisdom of self agency: your will, intention, attention, logic, discernment, reasoning, imagination, awareness, inspiration and presence of mind.
This is a profound way to connect with yourself—one that transcends the physical and taps into the spiritual world.
What is Conscious Self-Pleasuring?
Conscious self-pleasuring is not just about physical gratification; it’s a mindful, intentional practice that combines conscious self-touch with breathwork, meditation, movement, sounding and emotional awareness. Unlike common self-pleasure, which often focuses solely on the physical act, conscious self-pleasuring invites you to slow down, enjoy the journey, tune in, and honor your body, your heart and your soul.
This practice is deeply rooted in Tantra, an ancient spiritual tradition that views sexual energy as sacred and the most powerful energy we have in our bodies. Through Tantra, you will learn to channel this energy to awaken your senses, tap into your creativity and intuition, heal emotional blockages, and experience profound self-love and universal love.
The Benefits of Conscious Self-Pleasuring
1. Deepens Self-Love and Acceptance
Conscious self-pleasuring encourages you to embrace your body without judgment. By practicing self-touch with love and compassion, you’ll cultivate a deeper sense of self-acceptance and appreciation for your unique gifts and beauty.
2. Enhances Emotional Healing
Many of us carry emotional wounds that manifest as tension, pain, numbness or disconnection in our bodies. Through Tantra coaching, you’ll learn to release these blockages, allowing suppressed emotions to surface and heal, transmute and release blocks in your body.
3. Boosts Sexual Energy and Vitality
Tantra teaches us that sexual energy is a powerful life force. By practicing conscious self-pleasuring, you’ll learn to harness this energy and increase your vitality, creativity, and overall well-being. One of the most powerful life force energy cycles is the ‘micro-cosmic-orbit.’
4. Improves Mindfulness and Presence
This practice requires you to be fully present in the moment. By focusing on your breath, sensations, visuals and emotions, you’ll develop greater mindfulness, which can positively impact all areas of your life.
5. Strengthens Your Connection to Spirituality
Conscious self-pleasuring is a gateway to spiritual awakening. It allows you to connect with your higher self and universal love, fostering a sense of unity and oneness with the universe.
How Tantra Coaching Enhances Your Practice
While conscious self-pleasuring can be practiced on your own, working with a Tantra coach can take your experience to the next level. A skilled coach will guide you through the process, helping you:
- Set Intentions: Your coach will help you discover what lights you up, and clarify your goals, whether it’s healing, self-discovery, or spiritual growth.
- Learn Techniques: powerful tools to enhance your practice,such as breathwork, visualizations, how to circulate life force energy.
- Overcome Challenges: receive support and guidance, so you can navigate any emotional or mental barriers that arise.
- Create a Sacred Space: how to create a safe, nurturing environment for your practice.
Start Your Journey with Conscious Self-Pleasuring
1. Set an Intention
Before you begin, take a moment to set an intention. What do you hope to gain from this practice? What would you like to send the energy you are activating towards? Whether it’s self-love, healing, or spiritual connection, your intention will guide your experience. Follow your passion. Set an intention that ignites you and brings you joy! Energy flows where the mind goes, what is it you would like to feed?
2. Create a Sacred Space
Find a quiet, comfortable space where you won’t be disturbed. Light candles, dim lighting, burn incense, or use aroma therapy, play soft music that touches your spirit and creates a calming atmosphere.
3. Practice Mindful Breathing and Sounding
Begin with deep, slow breaths: inhale through the nose and exhale through the mouth. Breathe into your chest and all the way into your lower diaphragm. Observe how the body is moving with the in and exhalation. Focus on the exhalation and allow your body to surrender and relax deeper with each breath. Explore contracting and lifting your pelvic floor muscles between in and exhalation. (Kegels). Allow yourself to make sighs and sounds in the exhalation to let go of stored tensions and let the body move and flow freely with your pleasure and the sensations that arise. Allow the movements to come from the pelvic area, the homebase where our sexual energy is stored in the body.
4. Tune Into Your body's natural flow
Start by resting your hands on the center of your chest and your lower belly for a few moments, connecting with your heart and creativity centers. With very slow and light strokes, gently caress your body in the nonsexual areas. Alternate movement with holding and stillness for a few counts. Follow your pleasure and move slowly closer towards more arousing areas like the inner thighs, breasts, perineum, and pelvic area. Allow your pelvic floor to move gently with the rhythm of the in and exhalation. Pay attention to how it feels. Notice any sensations, emotions, or thoughts that arise without judgment and return to your sensory awareness.
5. Stay Present
When you catch your mind wandering, tell yourself “thinking” and gently bring your focus back to your breath and the sensations in your body.
6. Pleasure waves
Allow waves of pleasure to flow up your spine and down the front of your body. Imagine light illuminating you. See yourself in your radiance. Explore enjoying the pleasure while procrastinating the climax as long as possible or even choose to just let this journey be an exploration without the grand finale. Imagine beams of light rising up your spine in two directions like the double-stranded DNA and flushing down the front of the body like a waterfall of light and bliss.
6. Express Gratitude
After your practice, take a moment to thank yourself for this act of self-love. Journal about your experience to deepen your awareness.
Why Choose Tantra Coaching for Conscious Self-Pleasuring?
If you’re ready to explore the transformative power of conscious self-pleasuring, a tantra coach is the perfect guide. I am here to support you every step of the way, to unlock your full potential and embrace a life of joy, passion, and spiritual connection.
Ready to Transform Your Life?
Conscious self-pleasuring is more than just a practice—it’s a journey of self-discovery, healing, and empowerment. By incorporating Tantra coaching into your life, you’ll unlock the door to a deeper, more meaningful connection with yourself and the world around you.
Take the first step today. Visit my website www.ellavatecoaching.com to learn more about our Tantra coaching programs and start your journey toward conscious self-pleasuring. This transformative practice that helps you unlock your inner power, enhance self-awareness, pleasure and cultivate a deeper connection with your body, mind, and soul.
Conscious Self-Pleasure with Crystal Wands
Using crystal wands for self-pleasure turns intimacy into a sacred ritual. Their natural energy—like rose quartz for love or amethyst for intuition—deepens connection with your your body. Set an intention, move mindfully, and let the smooth, cool surface awaken sensation. It’s more than pleasure; it’s healing, self-love, and energetic alignment.
Always choose polished, body-safe crystals!